Hey readers good afternoon; I hope you all are doing the
very best you can. I have decided to write a entry from a assignment I did for
my therapist a few years back, but I have a strong feeling that a lot of you
will be able to relate to what I have written. Its real and its raw.
I wrote about Anger, my anger was a part of me for a very
long time. My anger was not” oh why me “My anger was turned inward most of the time.
My depression was turned inward for years; it was because my bipolar had such a
grasp on my life. I was in a web of a vicious cycle. Angry for many reasons,
Angry for being bullied at school, For many years. Angry that my innocence was
taken and my trust shaken when I was raped. I was angry that depression had
reared its ugly head, and I had to find the strength to fight that monster
every day, trying with every breath I took to find a reason to keep living. Though
the reasons were all around me, I just could not see through the bleakness and the
dark clouds.
I was angry when don and I first got married and we lost our
precious little one, never to hold her in our arms, only our hearts and only
memories of what could have been. I was angry when loved ones passed away especially
when my mother in law passed because the bond we had was indescribable. Angry
when my parents divorced after 25 years of marriage. Angry that after those
years after our miscarriage, we dealt with infertility and still do to this day.
I was angry when I got diagnosed with a
rare form of tumors a form of cancer
that though it could not kill me, I could and did end up with many complications
and I just didn’t get it once I got it twice. Angry that all the hard work I did
in college had to stop. Angry after years of not working then able to get a job
in something I had a passion for I had to stop working again. For this time, I was
facing a completely new set of health problems! I had overcome so much already…
but I felt like I had every right to be angry!
I had dealt with 9 inpatient hospital stays as a result of
my depression, I used to be on 24 pills a day alone for my bipolar. In
addition, self-injury too, I pushed through all that to beat the odds, starting
to see dreams come true… for it all to be taken away again that made me angry!
Now being diagnosed with IC(Interstitial
Cystitis) fibromyalgia, Pelvic floor disorder, arthritis,Myofasical pain
syndrome, and possible Endometroisos
still waiting to find out about that. I have learned to let go of false
expectations! I have learned to love myself, and have to remind myself that all
that I have overcome and been through with Gods strength! I’m still here aren’t I, even after all that, by Gods mighty hands
holding me, I’m still here fighting each day, but I’m stable now with my mental
health praise God!
I learned that the blade was not my friend, but a way of
covering up the real pain, pain I had been running from, pain I was trying to
numb! It never was a friend! I now had to face what is, and that’s I’m a chronic
pain patient!, my life won’t ever be the same. We all know pain changes people
it can, but only if you do not let it define YOU! It could change you for the
better, and you come out stronger than before
with a greater appreciation for your
life and the good days and more empathy for others struggling ,or will you hide
away the rest of your life when you have so much potential. You just have to
stop being afraid of what could be and embrace help and what plans God wants to
accomplish through you! Therefore, here is the poem that I wrote along with
this entry!
You wanted
the best of me
A cold room she sits
alone by the window as the hours tick by, it feels like a eternity, this moment
in time time stands still, but its over before she closes her eyes. The new day
dawns and she struggles once more to open her eyes, to face the music, the news, is this her new
reality, will this be the norm? This time around its different, it’s not just a
experience, this pain of mine doesn’t go away, when the day is done and the
night comes… it’s still there lingering…. The coldness, the darkness, the
isolation of feeling alone in this! Has it come to this point? Where little can
be done for my pain treatment after treatment the doctor’s words echo through
her ears! It tried to engulf my spirit. Pain so relentless I cannot find the
words to speak.
If I cry, the tears
will not let up. You want to wake from this nightmare and make it all just disappear!
you have seen your hopes and your dreams slip through your fingers , one by
one..YOU found another reason to be angry! At times so depressed you are angry
or so angry you are depressed, the cycle begins once again! How do I get off
this merry go round of emotional highs and gut wrenching lows! It is not God I
am angry at, but my pain, this disease! What ic has taken from me, what it
wants, but in no way do I want it to define me! I want my life back! I am taking
back the reigns was at the bottom of the pit, then came out on top, only for ic
to rock my world and rock it to the core! I am not about to roll over and give
up! IC you wanted the best of me…
NO the best is yet to
come! Help me Lord; release the hold you are not taking me down with you! You cannot
have my hopes and my dreams! You are a part of me, but never will YOU ever
define me, NO! I still have much to give and much life to live and I’m going to
do it the best I know how, for my past is not part of my future, one day, one moment
at a time, I’m ready to take this on and the chains of anger no longer hold me
cell bound! The end!( this poem I wrote
about my depression about dealing with my ic and other chronic pain, but anyone
can relate to it regarding their
depression) the end~