Friday, February 20, 2015

How Environment Affects our Mental Health~



How are all my readers doing this beautiful morning? How are you all feeling today? I can say though my physical health is not good right now, I’m in a very relaxed mood. ,I live in Massachusetts and we’ve had so much snow this month that I can speak for most people, im ready for Spring now We’ve had enough snow to last the next few winters and then some, but im not going to complain, there is blue sky outside and the sun is shining through my bedroom picture window.
   I want you to close your eyes. I want you to sit down in a comfortable chair and keep your eyes closed and picture this in your mind .Its early morning and the sun is just coming up over the horizon. The sky is lit up with breathtaking colors of pink, orange and purple and you are overlooking the ocean as you sit in your chair on the rock in front of your little house next to the lighthouse. No one is awake except you, all you hear is the waves crashing against the rocks below, and the ocean seems to stretch for miles with no end in sight. Then you hear the seagull overhead and the sunlight and you feel the rays of sunlight on your face. All is well with the world. You are relaxed and ready to take on your day.
    Now I want you to picture this, with your eyes still closed, you wake up for work, you forgot to set the alarm, so now you’re getting a late start, the kids are giving you a tough time. , you burn the toast, since your running late; you realize you forgot to leave out the kids clothes the night before, so now you’re scrambling to find them something to wear. They barely make it on the bus on time. In addition, you finally make it out the door, only for your car to give your problems starting. There is a huge traffic jam, you arrive at work late, and your boss is not happy. You are trying to concentrate on your job, but you know all your responsibilities are waiting at home. The day has just begun and you are already stressed to the max.
   Two different environments. That’s today’s topic how does environment affect our mental health? A person’s environment can influence how a person acts or reacts to a given situation. Many dynamics can stress a person out, just by what kind of environment is going on around them, but what happens when you are dealing with mental health; it takes on a bigger picture of stress, since stress is a huge factor in triggering a bipolar episode.
   So how does the environment affect our minds and emotions, since they go hand in hand with one another? Stressful life events, disruptions in our routines and schedules, these changes no matter how subtle they are at times can negatively affect our brain chemistry. In addition, how we handle ourselves, by expressing our feelings in healthy or unhealthy manner. Stress, interaction sith people, noises these all are contributing factors that play a big role.
   So how can we react or act differently when were under pressure, and we feel like were overwhelmed. Well here are a few ideas. Connect to nature, go for a walk outside, let the sunlight be nourishment for your body and soul. Have options of what you do to calm down. Surround yourself with social support like family, friends and a good therapist no shame in that. we all need to talk out those stressful thoughts, reduce the noise in our lives and clutter and business, they can over take the room in our minds and we feel like were being pulled in so many different directions. Relaxing distractions, a good book, a exiting movie, a bubble bath, or a phone chat with a good friend, there are many healthy options!
 So both physical environment and social environment can affect you. What difference can a physical environment make? For example, a brightly lit room with bright colors will affect people differently than a dark room that is dreary feeling. One will bring relaxation and a calm over  us, while the other brings out isolation and depression, and our minds play into what surrounds us, when were surrounded by certain dynamics then we start to gravitate to feeling that way!
 We need to  be active in our own  environment , some factors can’t be changed, if were in situations that are beyond our control, but we need to find the quiet calm, and bring that daily into our environment even if we have to be alone for awhile to gather our thoughts and relax our  bodies. This is our way of being proactive in your treatment! I know it has worked for me! I take time every day before I dig into my responsibilities to have a cut of tea, read my bible or a good book and look out at my beautiful view out my picture window. Knowing boundaries will help you figure out what are healthy and unhealthy boundaries too! You are not alone, through this learning process!

Friday, February 6, 2015

Self Advocacy..Speaking up for Oneself~



   Good evening my readers.  I am happy to say my husband and I are now in our new place, that we moved too and love it. There are many reasons why im so happy that we are now in a new place, but now that the night mare of finding a place is over and were getting settled in and we have internet back I can now once again focus on my blogs, which when  im actively doing them keep me busy.
 Tonight’s topic is  a very important one, though everything I write on has importance, this topic sums them all up and it’s the very reason why I do what I do writing this bipolar blog. The topic is Advocating. What is it and why is advocating so important to those who suffer with depression, mental health issues and how can you take part in advocating?
 How many of you have ever felt like your voice did not matter? How many have felt like you got the short end of the stick, when it came to how doctors treated you with your depression? How many of you have ever felt like you weren’t believed, or you were belittled? I know I have at certain times. It wasent until I found my voice that I knew then that my bipolar was not going to win this war.
  For so many years in my own journey, I did not know how to find my voice. I was so lost within myself, I was fighting myself every day, afraid that I would be lost forever in a dark world of depression .Because I didn’t have  a healthy self esteem, I didn’t think I could be  of any use in raising awareness, which  part of that process is Advocating for yourself and for others.
  Self-advocacy gives you a sense of power and control. YOU play a role in your treatment, your not just a patient, but a contributor, it gives you some ownership to this disease. We can’t control bipolar/depression but we can control how much input we have, and again it goes back to learning to care enough and love yourself enough to speak up, you have a right to  take part in your own  treatment of your emotional well being.
  Develop your own power statement: Meaning I will be treated with love and respect. I will not be silent; I have a right to be heard. In addition, stand by your beliefs!
Ways you can advocate:
Ask for what you want: Make your needs known
The right to say yes or no: know your rights!
You can change your mind: do not be pressured into doing anything that makes you uncomfortable!
Stand by your beliefs and values:
Do not be afraid to speak what you feel: Your feelings are valid and worth being acknowledged
Receive all info on treatments, risks and benefits:
Be treated with dignity, respect, and compassion: ive gone through times in my journey when ive gone to the hospital and was not treated with compassion. I had doctors whose bedside manner was anything but kind! If at any time you feel like someone in the medical field has done this to you, speak up, keep your cool, your more  apt to get your point across if you don’t lose it, I know its tough, ive been on both sides!
Be listened to: Not just HEARD!
Receive Hope and Encouragement: Search out those who will support you!
Communicate concerns: Don’t just sit back and go along with everything they tell you, if you have concerns about medications they are putting you on, express that, its your right!
Involve family/friends: you have a right to have them involved!
 Be yourself:
Be safe:
Change doctors: this is huge, ive dealt with this one, because some of the doctors ive had were not helping me in a healthy way, or they made me feel uncomfortable or terrible bedside manner, so I switched to someone I felt comfortable with! Do not be a doormat!
Play your ROLE: have a part in the decision-making!
Keep track of your progress: this is your way of showing your doctors that you care about your treatment, its also a way of learning to find what your triggers are, and learn healthy ways to cope.
Do your research: ive done this before personally, know what your medications are, why you take each one, side effects. When you choose a new therapist or psychiatrist, do your research about their back ground and degrees, what are people saying about them?
SELF-ADVOCACY IS WHAT IT‘s ALL ABOUT! You have a voice make it heard…
 Just like the small pebble in the water makes many ripples, once voice can make all the difference, it can change how your treated and then others hear about your experiences and then aren’t afraid to speak up to! Make ripple effects~